Have you ever heard of a Death Café?
Death is one of those things that we all have to deal with and learn to accept, but are never really taught about. We take classes on how to effectively deal with life experiences, but death (and all things related) is not one of the life experiences and conversations we want to have…Let’s put the conversation on the table.
At a Death Café, people come together in a safe environment, drink tea, eat cake and discuss death.
The concept originated in Switzerland (‘cafe mortel’), but has since spread to a number of
other countries, including France, the USA and the UK.
Death Cafés can be set up by anyone. There is a suggested ‘model’, which includes having someone in the role of facilitator and certain ground rules. A Death Café is intended to be a place for people to talk about death. It is not about grief, nor is it a platform for debate. Participants are expected to listen to others, contributing themselves if they wish to, although there is no expectation.
Talking about death is not something that comes easily to many of us. Yet the consequence of this is that often families are left not knowing the wishes of their loved one as they near the end of their lives or after they have passed away.